By Kathryn Green
Categories: Empowerment, Feelings, Life Coaching, Thoughts

“When will I feel normal again?”

Do you find yourself wondering the same in the midst of the difficult situations that come up in your life?

Goodness knows, I have. And my clients often ask me this too!

It’s funny, there’s this idea out there that normal is some sort of quality to aspire to or a badge of honor indicating that all will is well. We want to remove the challenge we’re facing and get back to “normal” and sometimes we’re even willing to find a “new normal”.

What is normal anyway?

Normal is defined as “usual, typical or expected”. By this definition, as we look at it in terms of “feeling normal again”, we are looking to move away from what we see as unusual, atypical and unexpected.

How do we know when things are “normal” for us? We know when we think that everything is going according to plan. This thought we have produces a feeling of comfort.

When we don’t feel normal, we tend to think thoughts like, “I didn’t think this would happen. This shouldn’t have happened. It’s too much. I can’t handle it. etc.” These thoughts can leave us feeling very uneasy and dis-empowered.

So, let me offer an alternative idea about what “normal” is.

What if normal is exactly what life hands us everyday? The good, the bad and the ugly.

What if normal is coming to grips with all of it and learning how to feel in control and empowered even when we experience circumstances outside of our control?

What if you gave up the idea that difficult things shouldn’t happen and you accepted that challenges are a “normal” part of life?

What if you chose to believe that your life is “normal” when things go right AND when things go wrong?

How do we know this could be true?

Because each and every day good things happen and unexpected, difficult things happen. They happen to all of us.

It is the way it is.

This is life.

Why argue with reality?

Somehow we think we will feel better if we do. This is never true. When we argue, we find ourselves feeling dis-empowered, out of control, and at the mercy of life happening to us.  Everything feels unfair.

However, when we stop arguing and decide that normal IS all of it by expecting the unexpected and accepting it as usual and typical part of life (i.e. normal), we find ourselves feeling less blind-sided and victimized.

Acceptance creates space for our power to show up.

Learning to accept what is, allows for the resistance to fade and solutions to become clear.

From this powerful space, we get to decide what to make of the situations in our lives.

We learn how to take the difficult hand we’ve been dealt and turn it into a winning one.

You can determine what you want each situation in your life to mean.

You can determine what to think about those situations, how you want to feel and act, and what results you want from here.

This is the work in Empowerment Life Coaching!

It’s powerful. It puts you in the driver’s seat.

Where do you want to go?

If you’re ready to leave the limited thinking behind and find a way to feel empowered and confident in any situation, it’s my job as your coach to help you access your own power to create the results you want in your life.

Join me for a free empowerment session so we can talk about what’s going on for you, what you want for your life and how we can work together to create that reality!

It’s the first step on this next phase of your journey.

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