Courage = the ability to do something that frightens you.
I was reminded yesterday that I can do hard things and it can be totally awesome! In a session with my peer coach from my Master Coach Training program, we were talking about why I was feeling nervous about stepping up and doing things I’ve never done before.
Not surprisingly, it’s about being afraid of failing and not wanting to experience difficulty and challenge. Ultimately, it’s about the fear of not being good enough to reach my goals.
As we continued to explore this, we talked about what it would take for me to be nervous and afraid, AND step up in a bigger way than I have. Finding courage was the idea and then we looked for the thought I could think that would create that courageous feeling.
We talked about what courage feels like and looks like in my body, since feelings are simply vibrations that come from our thinking. My description was that it feels bubbly, it sits in my gut, it’s color is yellow, it’s bright, vibrant and bold. Curiously, it feels a lot like nervousness and being scared, but with a bit of a different flare. . . a desire to MOVE rather than retreat.
In this exploration I was reminded of the time that I felt courageous 6 years ago when I participated in the Tough Mudder obstacle race. My peer coach asked me what I was thinking when I was at the start of the race that created courage to move forward even though I really didn’t know what was coming or truly how I would do.
What I found was incredibly revealing and inspiring!
I began to describe my experience. . .
I knew it was going to be hard. . . physically taxing for sure, I knew that I wasn’t going to be first to cross the finish line, but that wasn’t why I was doing it. It was about pushing through and rising above the obstacles (literally in the physical contexts as well as the mental ones). It was about the challenge of seeing what I could do, reaching the end and the sense of accomplishment I would have.
I was wet and cold (so cold). I was in pain. My body hurt. My mind kept telling me I could quit, but I didn’t. I did things I’d never done. I failed. I succeeded. I pushed through. I was able to make it to the end through all the difficulties AND it was totally awesome! The race was hard, REALLY hard, but it was SO worth it.
Oh my goodness!
Reliving this experience and realizing that going through difficult things doesn’t have to suck and just suck. It can be that AND be transformational in the best possible way. My body was beat up, my mind was exhausted, but I proved that I CAN DO INCREDIBLY HARD THINGS. Hard things aren’t innately bad. . . it’s all in the way we think about them.
It is so interesting how our minds will automatically tell us all of the potential dangers, pitfalls and despair we will face when we challenge ourselves and have circumstances in our lives that are beyond our control. Our minds neglect to share with us the upside, the benefits, the rewards.
HOWEVER, when we become aware of the thoughts and feelings, and when we inquire and explore what’s going on, we are able to redirect our minds to find something different. We can rise above the obstacles and find the awesomeness on the other side.
We can RECLAIM OUR COURAGE. This is where the magic is!
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